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Gold-digger confessions: How to land a rich man

How far would you go to get a rich man?

Would you have sex with a man just to stay in his pocket? Lose weight, get a nip tuck and dress to his liking? And in doing so, potentially give up a chance at true love?

It’s an idea some women toy with but never see through and others refuse to even consider for moral reasons.

But then there is a group of women who have absolutely no issue whatsoever hooking up with a man purely for his dough.

Call them what you want – “gold diggers”, “sugar babes”, “exploiters”, “opportunists” – they prey on men with money and do so without guilt or shame.

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A woman who says she’s dated her fair share of millionaires spoke to News Corp Australia candidly about the ups and downs of entering a relationship for money – and warned you better be prepared to be “submissive”, expect competition and don’t try to make the men change.

Tracey (not her real name) started dating wealthy men in her social circle when she was 19 and later via date-a-millionaire-specific websites

The university student from Queensland says she is attracted to wealthy men because she never has to worry about paying the bills.

“I just find it attractive – some people like dark hair, some like blue eyes, I just like a giant wallet,” she said.

Now in her twenties, the bubbly blonde says she has dated regular blokes “for the diversity” but keeps on returning to rich men.

“I just remember why I like to date rich men,” she says, laughing.

“There is always a sort of persona that I like in rich men – the confidence of being able to look after you.

“There is that 1950s housewife thing, I feel confident being that person, I don’t have to worry about paying the bills.”

But it’s not all peachy keen for women like Tracey that enter into these sorts of arrangements. The men, like the women, also have expectations they want met. And it comes as no surprise that physical attributes are top of the priority list.

“Everyone is different, with money or not, but men with money are always at social outings so looking good and being presentable is definitely an attribute,” Tracey said.

“Nobody wants to rock up with Ms Tubby to a conference. Staying fit as well as being bubbly and socially apt are a must.”

Tracey warns when you date a rich man you have to accept that other women will be swimming around him like sharks.

“If you are with men with money there’s always going to be competition, that’s the number one thing to remember,” she said.

Perhaps the most disturbing aspect of dating a rich man, as experienced by Tracey, is they expect their woman to do as she is told to.

“I can’t stand the neediness, quite often they are in need of attention, that gets to me a little bit, and it’s always them calling the shots so you have to be submissive,” she said.

“I put up with it even though it’s not the person I am.”

However she says there is a slight difference between self-made millionaires and ready-made millionaires.

“Self-made millionaires, they can go back to reality, I like them. But the ones that come from money, they are so wrapped up in their own world they’re hard to tweak,” she said.

“People that have made their own money often possess the characteristics that I like in a man – they are successful, driven and motivated.”

Throughout the conversation, Tracey shows no sign of guilt or shame for her actions because, as she explained, she makes her true intentions known.

“I guess they know, but I’m really upfront; I tell them ‘if you can’t support me, I can’t support you’. I ask, ‘Can you support me?’, and they say ‘of course’,” she says.

Interestingly, while many of the men appear to be after surface attributes like looks, Tracey says nearly all of the men she sees go into the relationships hoping to fall in love – and that’s where they get let down.

“That’s what they don’t like, that I’m not in love with them,” she says.

“If I don’t love them after a period of time, I give it up.”

On the flip side, she hopes to fall in love too. She’s fallen for two of the 10 millionaires and billionaires she says she’s dated but on both occasions the relationship never lasted.

“Billionaires are often very nomadic, it’s hard to keep up,” she said.

“I go in with the hope of falling in love, yes, of course everyone wants the full package, whether you get it depends, but that changes every day. At the moment I’m very happy.”

Financial stress was the biggest reason for relationship breakdowns in Australia, the 2011 Relationships Indicators Survey revealed. Taking that dismal fact into consideration, doesn’t it make sense to look for someone with money? Thankfully, according to experts, the answer is NO.

Relationships Australia director of operations NSW Lyn Fletcher said while money can ease financial pressure in a relationship it does not make up for everything.

“Financial security is important to people but it is only one factor. It’s like marrying someone because they have nice legs, or because they are an engineer or a doctor and you always wanted to marry a doctor. It won’t always make you happy,” Ms Fletcher said.

More often than not financial stress in relationships is just a screen for other underlying issues, like a lack of communication on finances.

“Have a money date. Talk about what is important to you. Some people let it slide but when the time comes and there is not enough to pay a bill it can cause issues.”

Ms Fletcher says couple should set goals and work together to make all their dreams come true.

“Sometimes working together to get what you want is something that can really strengthen a relationship and makes you focus on what is important to you,” she said.

“It’s all about goals, not money.”

Most importantly, keep your expectations real and don’t give in to social pressure.

“The higher expectations are putting a lot of pressure on people. If you can be satisfied with what you have and have a goal and a means to reach it you will be happier.”

This article originally appeared on NEWS.COM.AU

We ALL love a TO DO List Don’t We?

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6 Reasons ‘The To Do List’ Is Great For Women

As a movie lover, I’m used to being frustrated, insulted and bored with female characters. Truly, there are few things quite as annoying as being asked to ignore everything I know and believe to be true about women for two hours, as most movies ask me to do. Then a breath of fresh air in a sea of films featuring damsels in distress, and women who exist solely for the gratification of immature guys appeared on Friday night. It’s more formally being referred to as “The To Do List.”

This indie film centers around the story of Brandy Clark (played by Aubrey Plaza), a multidimensional female protagonist whose on-screen journey to sexual self-discovery revolves around her growth as a human being — not a sex object. It is not only a welcome relief from a summer full of male-centric blockbusters (“The Heat” being a notable exception), but from an industry that for most of its history has failed to represent women authentically.

“The To Do List” is generally hilarious, well written and well acted, but there are six specific ways in which it truly is victory for women — in film and beyond.

1. The protagonist actually resembles a real, live, human woman whose gender does not define everything she says, does and dreams about.

Now, it’s not like women haven’t made some progress in film over the decades — most Academy Award winning actresses didn’t score their Oscars for playing the ditzy best friend, after all. But more often than not, women in film are typically defined in incredibly stereotypical ways. As writer and director of “The To Do List” Maggie Cary told The Atlantic Wire, “because [‘The To Do List’ stars] a female protagonist, people automatically assumed it was a romantic comedy…it was like no, this movie is just funny.”

The great thing about “The To Do List” is that the protagonist isn’t defined by her gender, but by her quest to discover a yet-unexplored part of herself. There is no need for constant references to the fact that Brandy is a woman — it’s just one part of her. Normally, if you’re watching a woman-centric film, chances are the female protagonist is either actively looking for or devoid of love, and her journey focuses on gaining a man’s affection. It often feels like there’s only room for asexual auxiliary female characters, pathetic women consumed with finding love or hyper-sexualized objects.

Brandy Clark, like most women, possesses elements of all three of these categories, but isn’t defined by one of them. “Brandy Clark is clearly a feminist, but she’s also boy crazy and I think that’s totally fine too. She’s just like a normal teenager who’s curious about sex,” Carey said in an interview with Crave. Brandy idolizes Hillary Clinton. She’s the valedictorian. And she also wants to have sex with a really hot guy. Kind of like a real, live, high-achieving young woman.

2. There are actually multiple female characters that all defy gender stereotypes.

It’s not just Brandy that gets to resemble a genuine human being — her two best friends do, too, and they don’t just exist to support her (although they are supportive). They constantly mention their own sexual experiences and have their own various partners and crushes. They have their own jobs and their own interests — meaning this movie passes the Bechdel Test, which requires that at least two women are featured in speaking roles and discuss something besides men with each other. (Sadly, most films have a harder time passing than you might think.)

And the peer friendships aren’t the only healthy female relationships modeled in this movie: Brandy also has an awesome, sex-positive mom who doesn’t try to force her daughter into a chastity belt, but rather has an honest conversation with her about how she can best enjoy sex. Brandy’s older sister is also her go-to when it comes to confusing sexual experiences — neither embarrassment nor shame enters the picture, just questions and answers. Women in this film exist to support each other and help each other become the best versions of themselves.

3. The male characters also defy gender roles in this film.
The relationship between Brandy and Cameron (Brandy’s long-time friend and lab partner, as well as suitor) proves that gender stereotypes — especially the idea that men are emotionally unattached to sex and have no interest in monogamy — are bullsh*t. If anything Brandy and Cameron reverse stereotypical roles. Carey told Crave that Brandy’s approach to sex is “more stereotypically male, where she’s methodical, she’s almost scientific about sex. It’s a goal that she’s trying to achieve,” while Cameron is very emotional and believes sex is universally tied to love.

Brandy’s parents’ relationship also defies convention. We find out that while Brandy’s father lost his virginity on his wedding night, Brandy’s mother had sex long before that. Instead of the typically macho father and subservient mother characters we often see, Brandy’s mom is the cool one who encourages openness about sex whereas her father is emotional and somewhat insecure — about his own sexual experience as well as his daughters’.

4. The teenage protagonist explores her sexuality in a realistic way, free from shame.

Films about sex in high school often perpetuate the idea that it’s only OK for a girl to lose her virginity if she’s in love. If a girl has sex under any other circumstance, then she’s a whore. But in “The To Do List,” sex is less about love for Brandy, and more about simple curiosity. And not only is she not shamed for seeking out sexual experiences, she’s in control of her sexuality and capable of making decisions that she feels good about. “There’s no regret in this story,” Carey told Crave. “Everything [Brandy’s] doing as she’s checking things off the list, she’s in control. These are all her choices.”

5. The movie portrays sex, and the specific experience of losing one’s virginity, realistically as well.

Sex is undoubtedly complicated — especially for teens who are just starting to figure it out. As Jessica Goldstein of the Washington Post noted, films often treat high school hookups as “either The Biggest Deal or No Big Deal.” But, “The Do List,” “rejects the premise that those two points of view are mutually exclusive, arguing instead that, sex Is What It Is: a big deal when you want it to be, not a big deal when you don’t.”

The movie also doesn’t pretend that losing your virginity is the most terrifying experience in the world — or the most gratifying. While Brandy is hardly in love with the boy she loses her virginity to, and feels let down by the physical experience, she states that she regrets nothing, and that it will make a great story to tell her friends. The bottom line is that she’s OK with how everything played out, which is arguably a pretty typical experience for many teens.

6. “The To Do List” wasn’t meant to be a “statement” — which means we might actually be making progress.
One might think that Carey was trying to make some grand statement about gender and sexual politics, but she insists that she was simply writing a story she “wanted to tell.” She told Crave: “You just write what you know and I know what it’s like to be a teenager in 1993 and I’m a woman so I’m definitely going to write from that point of view.”

We should be trying to get to a place — in all realms, not just in film or screenwriting — where women aren’t marked or singled out due to their gender, and where “representation” isn’t necessary to seek out because we’ve reached parity. That a screenwriter felt she could simply tell a compelling story featuring a female character, without having to make it into A Big Deal, is actually incredibly encouraging.

We (unfortunately) are rarely presented with an on-screen woman who has goals that center on her own personal development. The fact that “The To Do List” features a female protagonist who is defined by her individual humanity — her awkwardness, her sense of humor, her friendships, her motivations, her academic accomplishments and yes, her sexuality — is actually quite a feat.

When You Think Your Love Story Is Boring…..LOVE THIS!

“My love life will never be satisfactory until someone runs through an airport to stop me from getting on a flight.” — Teenager Post #14029 featured here.

He drove us all home 18 hours over two days.

Three kids and hundreds of miles and potty breaks and princess pull-ups, the car covered in the markers I’d bought for window art. Turns out the soft beige ceiling of a mini van makes a perfect canvas. Rainbow swirls color the door panels and there are goldfish crackers crushed so deep into the seats that they will likely be there come next summer and this same road trip all the way to Northern Michigan and the lake that his family have been coming to for decades.

He’s never run through an airport for me.

Three times he’s held my hands, my shaking legs, my head, my heart as I’ve bared down and groaned a baby into being. He has run for ice chips and doctors and night shifts and laid himself low to help me hold on through the hard rock and roll and push and pull of labor and I’ve never drowned holding onto his hand.

There is a rumor, an urban myth, a fiction, a fantasy, a black-and-white screen cliché that love looks like the mad, romantic dash through airports for a last chance at a flailing kiss.

And then the credits roll.

And the lights come on.

And we must go back to our real lives where we forget that love really lives.

I threw up so hard and fast and often one night in a farmhouse in Pennsylvania that I couldn’t stand come morning. He moved over and out and gave me the bed. He went out for crackers and soda and mind numbing games to keep the three kids occupied and away from mom.

I looked in the mirror and there was nothing romantic looking back at me, but around the wrinkles in my eyes, the parched, white cheeks, there was the deep romance of being loved beyond how I looked.

He’s never run through an airport for me.

He’s gone out for milk at 10 p.m., he’s held our children through bouts of stomach viruses and told me there is nothing about his kids that disgusts him. He’s carried us on his shoulders when we were too tired or too sad or too done to keep doing the every day ins and outs that make up a life.

He’s unloaded a hundred loads of laundry and put the dishes away.

He lays down his life and it looks like so many ordinary moments stitched together into the testimony of a good man who comes home to his family in the old minivan, the one with the broken air conditioning.

It undoes me every time to look around and find him there, having my back in the day to day and the late night into late night and then next year again.

He’s run a thousand times around the sun with me and we hold hands and touch feet at night between the covers even when we’re wretched and fighting we’re always fighting our way back to each other.

He’s never run through an airport for me.

He runs on snatched sleep and kids tucked into his shoulder on both sides of the bed.

He is patient and kind.

He always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

And we come running to him. When the battered white minivan pulls into the driveway his children trip over themselves, their abandoned Crocs and the pool bag to be the first to open the door and spill out their day into the hands of the man who can catch them.

He’s never run through an airport for me.

This ordinary unremarkable love walks slowly every day alongside. One step, one day, one T-ball practice at a time.

One permission slip signed, one Lunchable, one school play, one art project, one Lego box, one more night time cup of water delivered at a time.

This ordinary love that wakes up with bad breath and crease marks on its cheeks and is the daily bread that sustains across time zones and countries and cultures and the exhaustion of trying to figure out how to be a parent and a grown up and somebody’s forever.

And this is a love life — to live life each small, sometimes unbearably tedious moment — together.

To trip over old jokes and misunderstandings. To catch our runaway tongues and tempers and gift them into the hands of the person who was gifted to us.

He lets me warm my ice cold feet between his legs and the covers at night.

He has never run through an airport for me.

This is love with the lights on and eyes wide open. This is the brave love, the scared love, the sacred boring, the holy ordinary over sinks of dirty dishes and that one cupboard in the kitchen with the broken hinge.

This post originally appeared on LisaJoBaker.com

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Now we’re really fucked, ladies…..

Step away from the stilettos: Shocking graphics reveal what high heels are REALLY doing to your feet

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Listen Up Singletons!

Dos and Don’ts: Best Tips For Online Dating (PICTURES)

Once considered a creepy or nerdy way to meet people, the online dating industry is now worth more than £2bn and is no longer seen as an unacceptable way to find love.

There are even dating websites such as My Lovely Parent and My Single Friend that let you play cupid for friends and family.

For many, however, the prospect of online dating will be intimidating and, frankly, a complete mystery.

To allay these fears, HuffPost UK Lifestyle spoke to dating experts to get the low-down on what you should do and — more importantly — what you shouldn’t do in the online dating world.o-ONLINE-DATING-570.jpg

Here is what the experts had to say:

Kate Taylor, relationship expert at match.com

Do take the time to get your profile right. Spend some time making sure your profile is as good as it can be and that it accurately reflects your personality. 

Do concentrate on the written word. Make sure anything you publish on the net communicates the qualities you want to portray. 

Do make your first message count. Ensure it reads like a personal message by mentioning a few things from the person’s profile and interests that caught your eye and made you want to get in touch.

Don’t misrepresent yourself on your profile. It’s best not to use old photos for your profile picture and be completely honest about your hobbies and interests. 

Don’t let a bad dating experience get you down. 

Don’t be afraid to make the first move.

Liz Marie, senior editor at WeLoveDates and HuffPost UK blogger

Do accept dates with people who aren’t your “type”.

Do meet first dates in a public place and always let a friend or family member know where you’ll be.

Do make online dating a priority.

Don’t use a selfie as your profile photo! It looks like you don’t have any friends!

Don’t respond to every email that you receive-unless you really want to.

Don’t wait for someone you’re interested in to message you first!

The Guyliner, HuffPost UK blogger and experienced online dater who is “taking on the internet one gay at a time”

Do be on time. Even slight lateness can set a miserable tone for the rest of the date.

Do be clean. You’d be surprised how often dates turn up without showering.

Do contribute to the conversation. It’s great that you’re “a good listener” but you’re wrong if you think letting someone do all the talking makes for a great date.

Don’t go for dinner on the first date. Once you’re sitting at a table with this stranger, you’re trapped until the bill comes – and they could be a very slow eater and dull to boot.

Don’t arrive drunk or come from somewhere else where you’ve been drinking.

Don’t lie on your dating profile. If you really want this to go somewhere, you’ll have to be honest.

Laura Jane Williams, HuffPost UK blogger and new on the internet dating scene

Do a little research. Before you write your profile, see what people your similar age and gender are saying about themselves.

Do remember that this is a dating site, not a job interview. Use your profile as a trailer, not the full movie.

Do actually date. Get out and meet in real life!

Don’t sit idle. Aim for about ten new messages a day in order to get noticed by other users, and the site’s algorithm.

Don’t cut and paste. It’s pretty easy to spot a generic “I send this to all the girls” message, and it won’t do you any favours. Personalised messages stand out much more. and get a real dialogue going.

Don’t mention how you promise you won’t ever tell anyone you met online. The stigma attached to online dating is long gone. Be proud that you’re being proactive in your search for love.

 

I gotta stop boozing…..

Alcohol and the sexes: Men tend to drink when they’re angry, while women feel more depressed after a night out

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