DAYUM!!! Wonder what she did? I’m kidding!!
Boyfriend in a grump? He probably just wants a hug! Research shows modern men like cuddles as much as women
- Survey shows men turn to physical contact in hour of need
- Also enjoy music, fresh air and seeing friends
- Women also chat to friends on the phone and watch favourite TV
- Figures show we are more likely to have tea than opt for alcohol
- Surprisingly a hot bath only came number 15 of the list
Modern men enjoy a hug as much as women do, according to new research.
A detailed study found far from being macho characters who hide their feelings, most men are now happy to admit they frequently need a cuddle amid their busy lifestyles and hectic work schedules.
Other things which men now turn to in the hour of need are music, fresh air and a get together with friends.
As well as also indulging in the above, women also admitted they reach for a cup of tea when they are glum, while chatting to a friend on the phone and watching their favourite TV programme also featured highly.
Overall the figures show we are more likely to flick the kettle on than opt for an alcoholic drink to cheer us up.
Psychologist Donna Dawson, said: ‘Little things mean a lot in life, and many of them are free: walking outdoors or listening to our favourite music both work by calming us through using our senses of sight, sound, smell and taste.
And heightening our senses can, in turn, lift our spirits, especially on those dark miserable days of winter.
‘As ‘touch’ is the most powerful sense of them all, this explains why a hug is the number one ‘mood changer’.
We are more likely to turn to a cup of tea than alcohol
‘When the skin is rubbed, it produces hormones and enzymes that boost the immune system and increase feelings of well-being. Women’s brains are naturally more ‘wired’ to be receptive to touch – which is why they find hugging easier to do than men.’
Top of the list of little things that mean a lot was a hug, with 55 per cent of people saying it was their number one seasonal mood improver.
Other things to make the top ten included spending one-on-one time with a partner, comfort food and a call or text from a relative.
Of the things that didn’t make the top ten, alcohol came in at 13th place.
The traditional hot bath took 15th place and, despite being known to physiologically improve well-being, exercise was down in 16th place in the study.
The study by AXA also examined the people we turn to on bad days, with 41 per cent of people saying their other half provides the most meaningful support.
However, men find their partner slightly more supportive than women do with 45 per cent of men, versus 39 per cent of women, stating they are their ultimate cheer-giver.
Next in the list came ‘a best friend’, with 10 per cent of men and 16 per cent of women stating that they are their first choice of support. Pets are fifth in the list of ‘people’ we turn to with six per cent of people saying they are their number one confidante.
By contrast, fathers are low down on the list with just one per cent of respondents saying they would seek out paternal reassurance when feeling down. This compares to seven per cent of people who turn to their mother.
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Yes please I am buying whatever you are selling…
I think we are ALL Listening here….LOL…..We do have to approach like it’s a JOB!
Thanks to modern technology, it’s now easier than ever to search for a date through your smartphone with the swipe of a finger. But how do you go from searching for, to snagging, the guy of your dreams?
From how to analyze his profile picture, to the best way to send that first introductory message, you’ll be surprised at how simple — and fun — it is to connect with young, professional, like-minded singles nearby.
The good guys are out there. Have fun, be yourself, be open to love, and you will be able to quickly find a man that you, your family and friends will ‘swoon’ over.
1. HIS PHOTOS CAN TELL YOU MORE THAN YOU THINK
As we all know, photos don’t tell the full story, but they do give us a little peek into someone’s personality.
While initial attraction is key, don’t be too quick to pass on a potential match. Take a look at what they’re doing in their photos. If a photo makes you laugh, take a chance and say ‘Yes’.
On the other hand, if there is an endless display of shirtless shots, it’s probably best to move on.
2. PICK A PROFILE PICTURE THAT ENCAPSULATES YOU
As for your photos, make sure you’re showing off your best you. Smile, laugh, be silly, and post a shot of you doing a fun activity.
Use photos that will be conversation starters. Pro tip: Stay away from group shots. You’re the center of attention here, not your friends.
3. LISTEN TO YOUR FRIENDS
Need a little nudge? Coming soon, Swoon will be the only app that allows you to text a guy’s profile to your female friends.
So, it’s easy to get a quick thumbs-up from your most trusted confidantes when you’re not sure or need a little encouragement.
4. WALLFLOWERS NEED NOT APPLY
Most importantly, be bold. It’s 2013, so don’t wait for him to reach out to you. If you see someone who catches your eye, don’t be shy. Confidence is always in style and a turn-on for most men.
5. NAIL THAT INTRODUCTION MESSAGE
Keep your initial correspondence short, sweet, playful and witty — you’re not looking for a pen pal. Let’s be honest, does it really matter if the last book they read was War and Peace? The best part of fresh beginnings is learning about each other.
6. TWO DATES PER DAY? EASY!
Not to state the obvious, but time is of the essence here, ladies! Nothing will replace the chemistry we feel in person, so schedule a meet-up soon to see if sparks fly.
Why not schedule one or two dates a day? Meet someone for gelato or cheese tasting, then, schedule a date later in the day at the dog park, or for a walk through the outdoor market for some seasonal treats.
Have fun, think outside the box and do something interactive. Simply put, the more dates, the more chances for love
I am torn on who is hotter! LOL David or Peter